'Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a garden. I will [want to] meet [with] you there'
By Georgia Gyori
Have you ever enjoyed a moment of true engagement with a stranger/someone you are just getting to know? Isn’t it amazing how open another person can be when they feel as though they are on the same page as you?
You can talk about interests.
You can talk about experiences.
But when you talk about belief systems, sometimes everything can change.
The other day I was in conversational-flow with another person. We had time to kill, and so we got chatting. It was about 30 minutes before the topic of feminism was broached, and my contradictory view built a wall.
As a Christian, I sometimes feel obligated to vocalise my difference in belief as soon as an opportunity arises. I always try to do so with respect, and matter-of-factly. But in this instance, it was received as opposition.
Without intention, I had built a wall. My Biblical World View was condemned as the Secular World View and was enough said.
The shift in atmosphere was unanticipated by me. And I was sorry. Later, when reflecting on what had happened, this beautiful quote from Persian poet Rumi was brought to mind.
'Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a garden. I will meet you there.'― Rumi
I have loved this quote since the moment I first heard it in “Diana”, the 2013 film, but I have never felt a Christian way to appreciate it and restore it until now. After a little reflecting, pondering and a fine-tuning, I feel Christian-proud to have come up with this amendment:
'Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a garden. I will [want to] meet [with] you there.'
It was a ‘kairos moment’ (God-inspired). I had got it wrong. My Christian-pride and self-assuredness had cost me my opportunity to just be, love and listen. My perspective had been renewed. I wanted to meet in that 'somewhere', with others.
'beyond right and wrong...' - beyond condemnation
'…there is a garden…'- safe, pleasant and inspiring
Next time, I am going to try to speak without condemnation. Next time I am going to try to nurture His Spirit-filled safe, pleasant, and inspiring atmosphere. I am going to try to be more humble. Next time I am going to try to just be.